My Advice on Being a Good Parent

Let me start by mentioning that I’m in the parenting trenches with you. We’re all in this together!

My 2 working parents, 2 kid household can be noisy, frenetic, and fractious but ALWAYS filled with love and commitment.

At the end of the day, that’s what’s most important, right?

With that in mind, here are some of my parenting tips. There are certainly no “one size fits all” solutions, I’m not a parenting coach or child psychologist, but these work for us:

Show unconditional love: Seems obvious, right, but when the days are long, the kids are fighting, and all you want is peace and quiet, being able to show love can be difficult. Impatience reigns and tempers can flare, but being the adult in the situation, parents need to get a grip, count to 10, do a personal time-out if possible, and get back to basics. Kids need to know they are loved even if they mess up. In fact, that’s the most important time. Don’t let harsh words be spoken because even if you apologize later, they can never be taken back.

Practice active listening: I know, sometimes, we tune out. There is so much other stuff going on in our heads, but we need to listen actively to their words and the undertones as well. Our kids need us to be interested in what they are doing and feeling and while their story might be taking a bit too long, remember that parenting is a full-time 24/7 and listening is a critical part of your success in the role.

Set clear boundaries: We’re their parents so it is our job, no, our duty, to set clear boundaries for what they are allowed to do and what they cannot. Don’t get swayed into being their BFF and allow unacceptable behaviors to take hold.

Set a good example: This is simple. Model the values and traits you want your child to develop, such as honesty, kindness, and respect. Be mindful of your actions and choices.

Enjoy the journey of being a parent and know that your time together is precious, Be patient, help them to be enthusiastic, kind, grateful and generous and the best way to do that is exhibit those qualities yourself.